John and his wife had been together for 50 years while the wife died suddenly after the Spring Festival last year. He was shocked about her death. He put the old lady’s urn on the table and hung it on the wall with his old companion, which was covered with black gauze. He had no appetite and did not want to do anything. He was finally depressed and died after the Spring Festival.

Statistics show that the death rate of middle-aged and elderly people is seven times that of normal people in two years. However, the death rate tends to be normal after two years of calm. Thus it can be seen that the importance of psychological adjustment after the death of middle-aged and elderly people. So, how to adjust the psychology after the death of middle-aged and old people?

The correct treatment of the reality of widows: to realize that people’s life and death are natural laws and irresistible. Although it is painful to lose his companion who stayed together and shared his weal and woe, people can’t die. To miss his wife, the best way is to take good care of himself and live a happy and healthy life.

Don’t blame yourself: when the old are widowed, they often blame themselves for having a lot of places to be sorry for. This kind of self-blame and guilt can cause you to sigh and frown all day long, weakening the body’s immune function and causing illness or aging.

Distraction: the fact that the widowed old man sees that the relics of spouse will constantly strengthen the yearning and aggravate the mental torture. Therefore, it may be necessary to collect the belongings of a spouse, change the environment, stay with the family for a period of time, or travel with a partner…

Seek a new way of life: after the death of your wife, some of the old ways of life have been forced to change, and now loneliness and discomfort are worse. We should readjust our way of life and reduce our attachment to the old way of life. A relationship in the family is the most important attachment. Once the death of a spouse, this relationship has been brutally destroyed. Children, relatives, and friends need to establish and fill a new attachment. The more harmonious relationship can effectively reduce the old man’s attachment and grief.