It is the wish of almost all couples to grow old together, and every time we see an old couple walking into a silver wedding, a golden wedding, or even a diamond wedding, we always look with blessing and envy. But as the divorce rate increases year by year, the difficulty of achieving a lifelong relationship grows. How do couples who enter the golden marriage and silver marriage do so? What are the secrets to staying married? In fact, when the marriage enters the stage of “old husband and wife”, the couple interaction should not be less, in the daily life or the conflict should learn to coax the wife happy.

Men break the silence

For elderly couples, the real “two people world” most probably start from retirement, even if you need help with grandson, two people get along with time is much more than the time before retirement, but disputes will also increase. Not only because of retirement, but also because the retirement age coincides with the menopause. And how do they deal with that? Yell and argument obviously do not accord with the standards of the happy couple. As long as it’s small contradictory, elderly men generally prefer to choose silence or patience. Therefore, in the relationship between husband and wife, men should make more efforts in emotional expression, even if it is just behavior, such as holding a hug and taking a clap.

How old people “show their love”

Speaking of the husband and wife getting along with, a lot of people would have thought that all kinds of affection in the street and social media, but these young people’s way is not suitable for old people, of course. If both parties can reach a consensus, they also can try the “new method”. So what are the options for the elderly to “Show your love”?

• hugging: For the elderly, the best and the simplest and the most widely applicable way should be a hug, when there is a conflict or unhappy, a man’s hug, giving his wife a pat, can have a very good cushioning effect.
• wearing matching outfits: many young people will dress up in pairs and get a lot of attention. However, it does not refer specifically to clothes. Old people can wear similar scarves, hat, and glasses, and wear similar clothes or accessories to a certain extent.
• revisiting: it can also enhance the relationship between the two sides by taking the spouse to visit his/her hometown or Alma mater or returning to the place where the two has common memories.
• taking photos: taking some more pictures, or simply going to the studio for photo shooting, also can promote feelings.
• making up for regret: most couples have been married for more than 20 years, and must have left behind regrets in these decades, such as the agreement but not achieved. It is also a good way to make up for regret, if conditions permit.